You have permission
Posted by Goddess Leonie on August 23rd, 2009. Filed under: Joyful Goddess Life.
My cousin, at the beach…
Dearest Goddesss,
Today, and everyday, you have permission.
You have permission
Today, and everyday, you have permission.
You have permission to say no to demands on your time that don’t light you up, and don’t give energy back to you.
You have permission to not give a crap what’s happening outside your world, and keep your energy focussed on what you are creating.
You have permission to let go of friendships that make you feel like shit.
You have permission to say no whenever you like, however you like, in whatever kind of voice you like, without feeling like only Mean Girls Say No and Nice Girls Say Yes. That’s bullshit. Yes and No have equal weighting – what’s important is if you use them when they are the best thing for you, not out of fear, obligation or guilt.
You have permission to know that Yes is powerful, and so is No. The power comes from you using either from your highest spirit and truest integrity.
You have permission to change. You have permission to not be the person you once were.
You have permission to get angry and self-righteous, and to also glean the wisdom from those emotions. They are leading you to where your boundaries are, and where they have been crossed, and what you need to do from now on.
You have permission to be exactly how you are.
You have permission to not be more like anyone else in the world, even if you think they are better, wiser or more popular. You have permission to be more like yourself, your gifts and your wisdom.
You have permission to not care what other people think of you.
You have permission to not try to change what other people think of you. You can’t ever argue that you are a good person. They will either know you are, or not. You don’t need to spend time with people who don’t believe in you.
You have permission to do things that your friends and family do not.
You have permission to be wild, expressive, truthful, exciting and outspoken.
You have permission to not accept friendship requests on Facebook, or anywhere else in your life. You have permission to block people whenever you like.
You have permission to share as much or as little as you like. You have permission to blog, or not blog. You have permission to Twitter, or not to Twitter. It doesn’t really matter. As long as it’s making you happy, that’s the best thing.
You have permission to suck at a wide variety of activities. It’s okay. You make up for it with your million other brilliance particles.
You have permission to be whatever body shape you like.
You have permission to choose, and choose again. And then choose again.
You have permission to not always be a perfect image of something.
You have permission to be a contradiction.
You have permission to not go to your school reunion, unless it really excites you and delights you, and you would love to really heart-reconnect with people you went to school with.
You have permission to not be interested in the newest fad: harem pants, geek glasses, polaroid cameras, scrapbooking, macrame. You also have permission to be totally obsessed with them, if it makes your heart light up.
You have permission to cut people from your life. You have permission to surround yourself with people who are good and loving and nurturing to you.
You have permission to be a disappointment to some people, as long as you’re not a disappointment to yourself.
You have permission to do nothing whenever you like.
You have permission to make your big dream come true.
You have permission to not do it all perfectly, or have all your shit together.
You have permission to not forgive people. You have permission to forgive people when it’s right for you.
You have permission to think some people are asshats. You have permission to think some people are smigging ice-cream with chocolate and wafers and sprinkles and cherries on top.
You have permission to not have the perfect relationship.
You have permission to not have a relationship.
You have permission to take whatever time you need for you.
You have permission to make ridiculous choices for yourself.
You have permission to use and listen to your intuition. To feel when things are off, and to remove yourself from them, even when you don’t quite know why. You will always find out why. Our intuition is here to serve us.
You have permission to be down. You have permission to be up.
You have permission to still believe in unicorns and fairies.
You have permission to believe in things that other people think are very very odd and strange. You have permission to not care. You have permission to believe in things that make your life wholer, richer and deeper. You have permission to make your own world that is the truest painting of you.
You have permission to suck at colouring in.
You have permission to say Fuck You to anyone who has ever told you that you’re not good enough, you’re not worth it, you are not beautiful, you are not lovable and you are not the most divine, wise, delicious Goddess to walk the planet.
You have permission to know that you are.
You have permission to swear when you like, however you like, to your reckless abandon.
You have permission to not be the best of anything – just the best of yourself. And some days, just the best you can do that day.
You have permission to not always give. You have permission to fill your own cup up first.
You have permission to have things around you that delight you.
You have permission to live in a tipi if you want to, or a mansion. Whatever makes your spirit shine is the right thing for you.
You have permission to make choices on whether it makes your spirit shine.
You have permission to know you are a goddess, even when it doesn’t feel like it. Even when you feel utterly human. Even when you want nothing more than to climb under your blanket, or light up the sky.
You are a goddess.
You have permission.
You have permission.
August 23rd, 2009 at 4:45 pm
I give myself permission to stop “working on” myself & enjoy the brilliant words in this post. they warm my heart so!
leonie, honey, thanks for reminding me in my journey to always show myself love and acceptance.
you’re wonderful, lovie! xox
August 23rd, 2009 at 6:07 pm
Thank You Goddess Leonie, thank you. Did you feel a strange compressing feeling just now? That was me giving you a great big mental hug.
August 23rd, 2009 at 6:29 pm
AI-YAH!
(that was me giving myself permission to give you a big goddess shout out.) LOVE this! Love YOU!
August 23rd, 2009 at 7:57 pm
Thank you – I really needed to hear some of these words this morning after a lot of painful emotion last night. Much love xx
August 23rd, 2009 at 9:15 pm
I totally want to print this post out and put it on my wall. It is amazing and I love it and I love *you*.
MWAH to you, Mama Goddess.
August 23rd, 2009 at 11:23 pm
I’m going to print it too – and also because of an incredibly bad day yesterday, and an awful week. thank you.
August 24th, 2009 at 12:57 am
Goddess Leonie
My dear friend. You totally rock. I sooo needed this today.
*soulgirl1 bowing to you*
Big love to you , your love and your babby on the way!
August 24th, 2009 at 1:39 am
Thank you Leonie! I have heard this before but all of your examples have really made this seem more real for me.
I give myself permission to do my best in all that I do, and ignore those who think otherwise, even if my partner is one of those people.
August 24th, 2009 at 1:49 am
Hey darling Goddess, thank you for this gorgeous post. Permission puts power back where it belongs–in our own hands, and in the heart of the Sacred.
Much love to you,
Hiro
August 24th, 2009 at 1:51 am
permission.
it’s precisely what i needed/need.
thank you for offering this up, dear Leonie.
with great gratitude,
gem
August 24th, 2009 at 2:23 am
Simply wonderful, Leonie!
August 24th, 2009 at 2:50 am
This is definitely going up on canvas as soon as I am moved and settled.
You continue to rock my world!
I love you and miss you.
August 24th, 2009 at 3:51 am
“You have permission to not be more like anyone else in the world, even if you think they are better, wiser or more popular. You have permission to be more like yourself, your gifts and your wisdom. ”
Thank you, thank you, thank you!! Thank you for sharing all your wonderful permissions. I think I am going to print them out and hang them somewhere prominent in my home.
And “yes, yes, yes, it’s true” to every single one of them. They are all true!
August 24th, 2009 at 4:33 am
God I needed this ~ thank you!!
August 24th, 2009 at 6:14 am
Thank you so much
August 24th, 2009 at 6:35 am
Leonie,
This is an amazing list. It is one I will save and reread whenever I’m feeling any sort of selfcare. Thanks for all your inspiration.
August 24th, 2009 at 6:52 am
I love it! Woohoo for Unicorns and Faeries!
And I return this permission back to you, we all have permission. 
This was just what I needed to read today. Lots of stuff going on in my life, many changes, and some are ones I choose to say no to. And some yes. And some “because I say so”‘s too.
August 24th, 2009 at 7:16 am
You could make a beautiful poster out of this! I would totally get one and put it on my wall where everyone who comes over can see it. And I would tell them, “Look, there are the “rules” of my house.” And it would rock.
It sounds like some of these were stemmed from hurting places in you or in people you love, and I wanted to send you some love and light to fill those hurting places, and to honor them, and to remind you that you have all these permissions, too.
*love love love*
August 24th, 2009 at 8:22 am
This is awesome, Awesome, AWESOME!
Thank you!
August 24th, 2009 at 8:41 am
you are a light you are a light you are a light.
I’ve been unfolding and letting go in big ways and you, darling, are just one more amazing note from the universe that it’s okay.
August 24th, 2009 at 8:44 am
I love you!
August 24th, 2009 at 8:58 am
sigh
I feel better now…
Leonie dear one, i give YOU permission to be proud proud proud of all the enlightenment you are giving to the Goddesses of the world
love love love to you Leonie XXXXOOOO xo
August 24th, 2009 at 10:02 am
I really needed to hear this today. Thank you!
August 24th, 2009 at 10:11 am
Thanks for the permission to wear harem pants….or not as the case maybe!
August 24th, 2009 at 10:59 am
This is the most beautiful, magical, empowering letter. I am printing this off and reading it daily until the words really sink in.
August 24th, 2009 at 7:45 pm
Thank you, Precious, a deep and heart-felt “thank you” for this soul-full reminder.
Biggest Rainbow Hugs to you!
Walk in Magic,
Nicky
August 24th, 2009 at 9:58 pm
Love this! Love you!
August 24th, 2009 at 11:41 pm
leonie, THANK YOU for this. i have been needing this (without knowing it) for so long.
August 25th, 2009 at 1:58 am
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August 25th, 2009 at 6:14 am
This is incredible, thank you for your wisdom and love. You rock.
Much love,
Bambi
August 25th, 2009 at 6:53 am
Whoooooo boy! I am lovin’ that this morning, darl!
<3 Meg
August 25th, 2009 at 11:57 pm
Thank you for this post Leonie, it was so powerful.
August 26th, 2009 at 1:25 am
Thank you soooo much Leonie for all that you do! I love your words and kindness and they and you are so very much appreciated! I am so glad to have found you!
September 1st, 2009 at 12:30 am
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September 1st, 2009 at 11:26 am
I found this through Melly’s blog and am glad I clicked over. Just the thing I needed to read tonight. Thanks!
November 28th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
I needed to get permission to not have a relationsip today. so thankyou.
April 23rd, 2010 at 9:46 am
Thank you for this wonderful list!
April 29th, 2010 at 10:26 am
Hi again Leonie,
I printed this out and have been reading it every morning since. What an empowering, healing life affirmation.
Thank you again.
Shelly